So I don't know about other families but our family is having a bit of a politeness problem these days. Remembering our magic words seems to elude us some days. I've been trying to come up with a quiet way to reinforce & encourage kindness & those shining magic words & this is what I came up with.
"Bee Bucks". Bee Bucks may be awarded at any time for any act of kindness or polite communication. My intent is to just quietly slip them to the kids whenever I catch them doing/saying good things. They will have a pocket on their job chart to store them in & then at the end of the week on payday they may use 5 of them to make up for a missed job on their job chart. This is a great incentive b/c they only get paid for a full day's work & their bonus depends on a full work week. If they don't need to make up missed jobs then they can cash them in for a special treat.
I'll have to try it out for a week or two & see if there are any positive improvements!